我們不想有被寵壞的孩子。但是現如今人們稍不注意就把孩子慣壞了，不是么？我們知道他們喜歡的很多很酷的東西。我們喜歡看到他們的笑臉，所以我們給他們那些能讓他們開心的東西，甚至沒有意識到我們正在把他們變成討厭鬼—像人們預料的那樣。那好吧，因為今天就是我們開始不寵溺的日子。

We don’t intend to have spoiled kids. its just the day & age that lends itself so easily to that, you know? There are great deals on cool things that we know they will love. We love to see them smile so we give them things that will make them happy, not even realizing that we are turning them into ungrateful people – people that expect it. That’s Ok! Because today is the day that we start the UN-SPOILING!

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Stop buying unnecessary things?

1、別再給你的孩子買無用的東西 Stop buying unnecessary things for your child.

你的孩子并不需要它們。然而給他們買東西時感覺很好并且你感覺你是在幫他們。你需要后退一步問自己你是不是在教他們在你花錢買東西之前他們就可以擁有任何他們想要的東西，或者問問你自己，他們是否怎的需要它。

Your child does not need them. While it is nice to buy them things and you feel like you are helping, you need to take a step back and ask yourself if you are teaching them that they can have whatever they want before you buy it, or ask yourself if they really do need it. (Plus, when you aren’t constantly buying them things, they will appreciate it more when you do.

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Teach them to buy things?

2、教會他們為自己買東西 Teach them to buy things for themselves.

努力工作的價值永遠不應被忽視。如果你的孩子想要什么東西，告訴他們它值多少錢并讓他們努力工作來賺錢。當他們能憑自己的本事完成這件事兒時，他們將感到這事兒有多棒！他們會為此感到自豪！

The value of hard work should never be overlooked. If your child wants something, tell them how much it costs and let them work hard to make that money. ?How wonderful they will feel when they can accomplish that on their own! ?They are so proud!?

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Teach your child to give

3、教會你的孩子去給予 Teach your child to give.

一段時間之后，我聽說扔掉些東西以便為新進家的東西騰地方。如果你的孩子得到了一個新玩具，他們會愿意把舊的分享給其他人嗎？（不是破掉的或者沒那么值錢的，但其他人會喜歡的）

A while back, I heard that you should get rid of one thing for every new thing that comes into the home. ?If your child gets a new toy, have them donate one to someone else (not a broken one or ?less-valuable one, but one that someone else will love.)?

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Try cutting back on what you have

4、降低你的物質生活標準 Try cutting back on what you have.

首先，你不需要那么多東西。

其次，當你的孩子去有新玩具的其它地方時（教堂，幼兒園，健身房托兒所或朋友家），他/她會很興奮。你也不需要把他們都搬回家。少就是多。玩具太多你的孩子也會發暈，就像我們周圍被塞的滿滿當當時也會有被淹沒感。

First, you don’t need it all.?

Second, your child will be excited when he/she goes somewhere (church nursery or gym nursery or to a friend’s house) where there are new toys. ?You don’t need it at your house, too. ? Less is more. ?Your child may become overwhelmed with too many toys, just like we become overwhelmed with too much stuff.

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Time matters more

5、時間更重要 TIME matters more.

花更多的時間跟孩子一起做事。你不需要去給他們“買”東西。只需花時間陪他們。如果他們自以為是或者不知感恩，跟他們談心。跟他們坐下來并解釋給他們聽。然后堅持到底并達成一個結果。不要用干巴巴的威脅。我學會永不用一個巨大的威脅就像“如果你在這么做，我們今年夏天不去迪斯尼”，因為我無法堅持去這么做。?

Spend more time doing things with your child. You don’t need to “buy” things for them. Just spend time with them. If they act entitled or ungrateful, talk to them. Sit them down and explain it to them. Then follow through with a consequence. Do not ever use empty threats. I learned once that I would never use a huge threat like “If you keep acting this way, we aren’t going to Disney this summer!” Because I would never follow through with that.?